The Standard: Dating By Design
A live, chart-specific journey in Human Design and astrology. For women who are ready to navigate dating with clarity, discernment, and self-trust.
You are not confused about who you are.
You are confused about why someone as self-aware as you keeps arriving at the same place in dating.
You know what it is to check your phone more than you would like to admit, trying to decode a message that should not require this much of your intelligence. To tell the story of what happened to a friend — and hear yourself making excuses for his behaviour mid-sentence, and feel a sharp flicker of embarrassment about it.
You know what it is to sense, somewhere in your body, that something is off — and override it anyway, because the chemistry feels too compelling to question. To wake up the day after a date that felt electric and somehow feel worse about yourself, not better. To attract people who are impressive on paper and exhausting in practice.
To be the woman who has it together in every other room — and somehow come undone in this one.
The most disorienting part is not the confusion itself.
It is that you — a woman who is self-aware, capable, and deeply intelligent — no longer fully trust your own judgment here. You can see the pattern clearly in hindsight. You simply cannot seem to interrupt it in the moment.
You were never lost. You were without a map.
Here is what nobody told you.
The reason dating advice has never quite worked is that most of it was written for someone else.
Not for your design. Not for your authority. Not for the specific way your aura moves through connection. Not for the particular wound that has been making decisions on your behalf without your awareness.
There is a profound difference between a connection that is aligned and one that is simply activated. Between chemistry that is genuine resonance and chemistry that is the familiar frequency of your not-self.
You were never given the tools to tell the difference.
The Standard gives you those tools.
Who she becomes on this journey:
She leaves a date settled in herself, not unravelling. Anchored. Still in the mystery, but certain of her own ground. Held by her own knowing, whatever the outcome.
She leaves a date the same woman she arrived as — perhaps more intrigued, never less certain of herself.
She does not spend the evening reconstructing what was said. She does not override the quiet signal in her body because the chemistry feels compelling. She reads behaviour as design information — useful data about how someone is wired — rather than a verdict on her worth.
She can feel the difference between a connection that is activating her wounding and one that is genuinely correct for her. And she trusts that distinction. Not because she is more certain, but because she finally has the right tool for the decision.
She moves through dating with the same precision and self-trust she brings to every other area of her life.
She does not wait to be chosen. She chooses — consciously, from her design, from her standard.
That is who you become in this journey.
The Standard is not a course.
It is a live, small-group coaching experience — capped at twelve women — in which your chart is the curriculum.
Each week, we work with Human Design and astrology as integrated lenses. Not as separate systems to study, but as a single, coherent map of how you are designed to date. We apply this to you first — so that you understand yourself in dating with genuine depth and precision. And where relevant, we turn the same lens outward — so that you can begin to read others. To distinguish what is a genuine design trait in someone, and what is conditioning, pattern, or performance.
This is the work that changes how you choose.
Eight live sessions, every Friday at 10 am AEST (Thursdays 4 pm PDT / 7 pm EDT) from 1 May — on Venus Day, intentionally.
Ninety minutes each: approximately sixty minutes of teaching and chart work, followed by thirty minutes of live group coaching. Lifetime access to all recordings. Twelve women.
You can view our live call schedule here.
A serious container for the woman who is serious about this area of her life.
If you are in the UK/EU and would like to join, please email hello@amylea.com.au to express your interest, and we will get back to you with an additional group that suits your time zone.
What this is and what makes this program different:
What this is not:
A masterclass on attachment theory. Attachment theory is valuable — and it is work worth doing. But it is not what we are here for. This journey is about equipping you with deep self-knowledge and a clear understanding of how others are wired, so that you can navigate dating with more ease and discernment. If you have not explored attachment theory yet, I would encourage you to — separately, and in your own time.
A ten-step formula. There is no process here that worked for me and that I am asking you to follow. This is not about dating my way. It is about uncovering yours. The framework we move through together is a lens — not a prescription. What emerges will be specific to your design, your chart, and your own pattern. That is the point.
A compatibility calculator or chart comparison service. We will cover what composite energy means and how two people's designs interact — but this is not a service where you bring someone's chart and receive a verdict. The work here is about you. Who you are in relationship, how you are designed to choose, and what you are available for. Compatibility is a lens. It is not the answer.
A program that will tell you who to date. Nobody can tell you that. And anyone who implies they can is not someone whose framework you want to hand your love life to. What this journey gives you is the discernment to know for yourself — which is worth infinitely more than being told.
A quick fix. This is eight weeks of live, deep work. It will ask something of you. The women who will get the most from it are the ones who are genuinely ready to look honestly at their pattern — not the ones looking for the fastest route to a relationship. If you are ready to do the work, what you build here will last.
A space where Human Design is taught from scratch. This journey assumes some familiarity. You do not need to be an advanced student, but you do need to know your type, your profile, and your authority before we begin.
A place to process heartbreak or relationship trauma. If you are in the acute aftermath of a painful ending, this may not be the right moment for this journey. Not because the content will not be useful — it will — but because the work here is forward-facing. It is about who you are becoming and how you choose from here. Give yourself the space to land first.
A replacement for therapy or counselling. This program is not designed to be that, and it will not attempt to be. If you are in a place where therapeutic support would serve you, I would encourage you to seek it. What happens inside The Standard is empowerment and knowledge work — it goes deep, but it is not clinical support, and it is not positioned as such.
Becoming someone who chooses consciously
A woman who understands her design in dating does not chase what is not correct for her. She does not override her authority because the chemistry feels compelling. She does not make herself smaller to maintain a connection that was never aligned. She does not spend hours trying to justify someone's behaviour when her body already knows the answer.
She moves through dating differently. With discernment rather than hope. With self-trust rather than self-doubt. With a standard that is rooted in her design, not in fear or conditioning.
That is what this journey is built around.
A genuine elevation of how she shows up — and what she will accept — in love.
What we will journey through together:
Eight weeks. Eight live ninety-minute sessions. Each one a lens. Together, a map you will return to long after this journey ends.
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We begin with your unique operating system. Your energy type, how your aura moves through dating, your relational themes, and — most importantly — your specific decision-making configuration. The one tool that you can rely on, even when logic escapes you.
You will leave this session with a clear, embodied decision-making practice you can use from the moment the journey ends.
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Venus as what you need to receive in order to feel genuinely loved — often entirely distinct from what you perform or project. The Moon as your emotional rhythm in intimacy, and what you need to feel safe enough to open. The 7th house as the mirror: the qualities you seek in others that you are here to integrate in yourself.
You will leave with a richer, more specific understanding of what you are actually seeking in love — and why you have been seeking it.
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Before you can date from your design, you need to see what has been distorting your decisions. We move through your distractions as a dating history — where you amplify and absorb, where you override yourself most willingly. The open Emotional centre calling borrowed feeling love. The open Heart over-committing to prove itself worthy. The open G centre becoming whoever the relationship needed her to be.
We name the pattern specifically, and without judgment. Because once you can see it clearly, it loses its grip.
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How You Are Designed to Bond
Your profile is your relational blueprint. It tells you how you move toward connection, what you need to feel safe enough to open, and what your shadow looks like in love. We turn this lens in both directions — toward yourself, and toward the person across from you.
We also explore what profile resonance actually means: when familiarity signals compatibility, and when it is simply the recognition of a known pattern.
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What You Are Fundamentally Wired For in Connection
Beneath chemistry, there is something quieter: the driving force beneath how you bond, desire, and connect. We explore the three relational currents in Human Design and what each produces in love, loyalty, and belonging. We also go into your desire nature and sexuality streams specifically — how you are wired to experience intimacy, and what keeps you from accessing your full capacity for it.
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What the Pull Is Telling You — and What It Isn't
Chemistry is real. This session gives it context.
We decode what chemistry is actually communicating — and what it cannot tell you. We look at how definition type shapes the way someone bonds, and the four types of energetic connection in composite. We spend real time on Companionship — the most undervalued connection of all, and the one most often dismissed by women who have spent years chasing electromagnetics.
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Live, Responsive, Real
No curriculum. Bring what has surfaced. The situation you have been sitting with. The pattern you can almost name. The dynamic you want to understand. This is where the knowledge meets your actual life — applied in real time, to real decisions.
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What You Are Taking With You
We close the way we have moved through this journey — together, and in real time. A space to articulate what has shifted, ask what has not yet been asked, and leave with a standard that is fully, specifically yours.
This is where the journey ends. And where your new standard begins.
This journey is for you if:
✦ You are intelligent, self-aware, and have done significant inner work — and dating is still the one area where you feel like you are operating blind
✦ You have caught yourself mid-sentence making excuses for someone's behaviour and felt the embarrassment of it before you finished speaking
✦ You have overridden your own knowing because the chemistry felt too compelling to question — and paid for it later
✦ You can see the pattern clearly in hindsight and cannot seem to interrupt it in the moment
✦ You want to understand how you are actually designed to date, to bond, to love, and to be nurtured — not how someone else is
✦ You are ready to stop mistaking conditioning for chemistry, activation for alignment
This is not for you if:
✕ You are looking for a formula, a checklist, or someone to tell you who to choose
✕ You are in the acute aftermath of a painful ending — give yourself space to heal first
The Standard will not promise you a person.
What it will promise you is this:
You will leave with knowledge that genuinely changes how you move through dating. You will have tools to recognise misalignment earlier — and the embodied decision-making practice to trust what you find. You will understand what a dynamic is actually telling you, rather than making it mean something about your worth.
You will leave knowing how you are designed to date, to bond, to love, and to be nurtured. For most women, that clarity alone shifts everything.
You will leave with a standard that is specifically and genuinely yours — built from your chart, your design, your actual needs.
What you do with that is yours. The knowledge, the framework, the standard — those I will stand behind completely.
The Details:
Price: $1997 AUD — Founding cohort pricing
Payment plan of 3 x $675 monthly payments.
8 Weeks · 8x Live Sessions · Lifetime Access to Recordings
Eight live sessions focused on Human Design, astrology, and identity work — drawn from Amy's 7+ years of supporting clients not just in life and business, but in dating and relationship dynamics.
Each session is structured intentionally: the first half dedicated to knowledge and empowerment, the second to integration, questions, and the kind of real-time clarity that only comes from being in the room together.
Lifetime access to all recordings, designed to be returned to as you evolve.
This is not a course. It is a live experience — a container in which a new standard will emerge.
A serious journey for a woman who is serious about this area of her life.
